2021.09.19 03:45 TheBoldNomad She’s older and I’m still struggling to Iand her from long-distance
So, I’m (sadly) an ENFJ, Type 2, Aries male.
I’ve been trying to catch this woman’s attention for three years now. We met on Instagram, I slid in the DM’s. We chatted there for a while, eventually texting.
I’ve never in my life consistently been so drawn to anyone like I am her, or even anything.
I’m not sure what her personality type or enneagram is, but her sign is Sagittarius — but I can’t help but feel like whatever she is, she’s a direct opposite of me. I don’t know if that’s just the age difference (I’m 10 years younger and prefer older women) or just what we’ve been through or what.
I wish I did know what type she was, because maybe it would help, but I’m not sure how she even feels/views all this stuff.
We haven’t been able to meet in person because we’re in different states and since talk (er, texting/messaging), we’ve both also moved states. I’m trying with every fiber of my being to be what she needs but I am so fucking lost and it is ripping me to pieces daily because all I want is her and I can’t see life without nor do I want her.
But I’m struggling to do things that please her.
She needs space; I struggle to give it.
This is mainly, at least in my opinion, because I can’t get enough of her. The times when we do text, I’m already missing her and not getting enough so I don’t know how to know be overbearing/smothering but that alone seems to be too much for her.
I’m a pleaser… and I want everything to be perfect for everyone, but her especially.
Her favorite foods made to her liking. Her clothes folded how she likes them. Her coffee and eggs prepared the right way.
And when things aren’t done how likes/wants them, I feel bad for not being able to change it. I feel a mixture of sadness and anger because I could be the one fixing it but I’m not and that’s upsetting.
I’m barely the nickel to her dime; I’ll always see it that way because there’s no way someone like me should be able to land someone like her… she’s a total catch and then some.
But damnit this feeling sucks.
On top of it all, I’m very inexperienced in pretty much all aspects of a relationships. I just have my journal of ideas that I’ve had since I was 13 of how to do things in a way that hopefully makes someone appreciate you.
I’ve had exquisite flowers delivered, shipped desserts cross-country, ordered meals to be delivered to help her relax after a long day or just so that she can enjoy something she likes…. But it still doesn’t feel like enough.
I don’t feel like I’m doing the right things because I still struggle to feel close enough. I don’t like to ask questions because I was raised to feel like prying on a woman’s life is wrong and I don’t like being in situations where someone has to tell me know so I’m order to avoid that I don’t ask questions… I just listen and take notes for when I learn something new.
I hate the way that I am because it only seems to make her want to distance herself but I feel so lost…
When things go wrong for her it seems like she is the type that wants space and to be left alone but all I want to do is be there to hold her and wrap my arms around her and play with her hair and tell her it will all be okay.
I want her more than I’ve ever wanted anything in life and I feel awful, almost selfish for not knowing how to be what she needs.
I can’t quite put my finger on what exactly it is that makes me want her so bad, but maaaaaaannnnnn do I want to put something in her. (We don’t even get to talk about sexual feelings because that’s a no-zone for her — I’m guessing because of her prior marriage she’s in the process of putting behind her and it’s beyond tough for me)
Damn. The feelings of this hurts worse than anything I’ve ever felt and that includes when my parents left.
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2021.09.19 03:45 SavageToyShow What is the first Kraft Product you can think of that is not cheese?
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2021.09.19 03:45 Tenorman-Chilli54 Employers should stop telling employees "the customer is always right"
I don't think employees should be rude for no reason but they also shouldn't have to put up with a customer's BS.
If a customer is being rude, the employee shouldn't have to hold in any possible anger to accommodate them.
The customer's complaint could be justified, in which situation is the exception and the employee SHOULD accommodate the customer because they're the ones who screwed up.
But if the customer is acting entitled or rude for no reason then they are most certainly not "right" to have their unnecessary attitude. It hurts the employees more than anyone because holding in anger is extremely unhealthy. Not that the employee should curse them out, but they shouldn't have to be so accommodating to someone who isn't entitled to accommodation.
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2021.09.19 03:45 folkloredoexists Please help, 1st time cat momma
If ever you have experienced the same, I badly needed your insights/recommendations. Its been 48 hours since my 2 cats are vomiting small portions of white foam and yellow liquid, their poop is also brown liquid, no other texture at all, just liquid, no blood as well. They are not lethargic but physical activities reduced. They are eating but very small portions, they are drinking water on their own. Not dehydrated so far since their gums are still pinkish. Are these symptoms of gastroenteritis? Can I give them medicine? What particular medicine should I give? Please help. TIA.
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2021.09.19 03:45 Turtle_Quail Would I be able to grow some good plants from seeds I found in my weed?
2021.09.19 03:45 souppe Stuck in Reboot Loop
I initially used bootcamp to use windows a couple months ago and everything worked perfectly fine.
About 2 months ago I rebooted my computer back into macOS and it failed and got stuck in a loop. The screen turned on, the chime went off and the Apple logo appeared, but then everything would turn off and after a few seconds the sequence would repeat. The only thing that seemingly worked to fix this was to hold down shift with the next cycle and boot from the Windows partition. I didn’t think much of it at the time and wasn’t concerned because Windows was working and I never used macOS anyways.
Today, I needed to access an Apple application and tried rebooting from the other partition. The same issue happened. After researching I tried running recovery mode with cmd+R, which did nothing. I then tried alt+cmd+P+R which also did nothing. On top of all of this I also can’t boot windows anymore either. The only thing the computer seems to respond to is holding shift during the boot sequence and getting to the partition menu. Selecting either one does nothing but get it back into the continual loop. I have no way of stopping it.
Any help would be greatly appreciated.
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2021.09.19 03:45 AutoModerator There's just no stopping in a white zone.
2021.09.19 03:45 mrOtiscatman Lady, she was 14 years old. Our hearts are hurting tonight. Our precious girl was taken by a tick with Lyme disease
2021.09.19 03:45 Confident-Ad9407 2009 RAV-4 issues
So basically I’ve been having issues with my Rav I got a couple years back. The ECS light is on even when parked and my check engine light is on as well. When I’m on the streets it’s fine but when I go on the highway and get up to 65+ the check engine light will start to blink and vibration will come from the engine as well. The gas mileage on the highway is poor. I’ve been to two mechanics and one said it was the spark plugs but when I went to a different one the plugs were fine but it was registering as a misfire on the diagnostic tool. Any help would be appreciated, I have an appointment with the dealership on Monday but I hope I’m not gonna get financially gutted because I rely on my car for work.
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2021.09.19 03:45 Wilson__Volleyball Do you grind your coffee?
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2021.09.19 03:45 Nickidemous420 Still 3 hours to enter 42 item food giveaway. Please comment on original post.
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2021.09.19 03:45 noodlemcfoodle Malnutrition Asuka
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2021.09.19 03:45 KReynolds88 Moving
Hey guys, I’m moving to Park City in April from Orlando after 30 terrible years. Looking to find a job to help fill some time and meet people as I adjust to the change. Anybody know of any good recruiters in the area. I am not looking for any temp work, something more of a career. Extensive experience in real estate investment and related finance. I have an MBA as well.
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2021.09.19 03:45 0Dizzy0yUh0 How many grolls does it cost for a legacy
2021.09.19 03:45 1309Log Justice Knight built. Now time to panel line.
2021.09.19 03:45 teawithice will walk in clinic refer me to lung tests
hey all. i’m having chest pains. I had chest pains after getting a pfizer shot so i thought it was related as heart inflammation is a risk in younger people from vax. i went to the er , got my heart checked out and it was found to be in good condition.
So i guess it might be related to my lungs. the chest pain is happening like everyday.... i’ve had it for like one hour now just today.
Anyways, doctor takes 2-3 months to get an appointment with. will walk in clinics refer me to lung tests? It hurts a lot so i want to go quickly.
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2021.09.19 03:45 Hamzee125 Yavin..
Is there any real point to this place? While it features a beautiful view, it consists of simply a long corridor and a room where a guy can sell you a handful of super expensive things. I get the feeling the developers meant to add more to this place.
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2021.09.19 03:45 StephenFerris Why did Russ only last 3 seconds with Maggie. The whole scene before, focused on how whisky dicked he would of been on “Jameson” whisky.
2021.09.19 03:45 SwagTheBagel PinkPantheress: 'Just for Me' Is TikTok's Breakout Summer Song
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2021.09.19 03:45 RonJohn223 Bananas in Washington
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2021.09.19 03:45 IrishSurferPunk Kevin Costner's Cryptic Warning About 'Yellowstone' Has Sent Fans Into a Tailspin
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